Been musing for a while now.
What, in essence, is maturity?
What, exactly, do people mean by boy-tuning-man crap?
Recently I heard some guy comment that my observations were predominantly immature, and therefore, hard to accept. I would be lying if I said that the comment didn't bother me, because I am part of a species that really thinks a lot about itself. The comment did bother me, because it set me thinking. It did not make me brood over the fact that people thought I was immature, because they all know I don't give two hoots, I don't take my life seriously, let alone others words.
It set me thinking on what exactly people meant by maturity. You can always spot the so-called wise old men using this term a lot, judging others levels of maturity and crap. If a guy is socially acceptable, that is, he respects rules and sentiments, he follows etiquettes, he takes on responsibilities, then he is considered mature. Basically, anybody who has his life on control is termed mature.
But nobody is flawless. The nice guy you see may actually be a sadist on the inside. Every human has his negatives, and people create facades and convince themselves to be someone they are truly not on the outside.
So does maturity mean succumbing to social pressures, acting like you are compassionate and warm on the outside while you are burning within? Does maturity means killing the free spirit within you to please some vain old men and a couple of self-proclaimed mature humans?
Wikipedia defines maturity thus:
"Maturity is a psychological term used to indicate that a person responds to the circumstances or environment in an appropriate manner. This response is generally learned rather than instinctual. Maturity also encompasses being aware of the correct time and place to behave and knowing when to act in serious or non-serious ways."
So broadly maturity is just another term created to make you self-conscious and to make you paranoid of what others think about you. Why do people need to care what others think about them, anyway? Why shouldn't we be proud of our imperfections, and why can this world not accept us for what we are? Do I have to be kind, courteous, polite, warm, thoughtful, sensitive, resourceful, and constantly on the alert of hurting others feelings when I express my views to be considered mature? Should I bend down, succumb to rules, live the way I have been taught to live?
Humans are best left unchained. They turn destroyers, yes, but they fulfill their destinies.
When a kid dances around in front of the mirror, mimicking some actors and wasting time, his father sneers at him to act his age and go back to studies, because he'll never be an actor himself. Well, the theory of probability has a history of screwing the best of us. Even though the whole of mankind may dissuade him, the kid has atleast a probability of one in a thousand that he'll be a Star by human standards one day. Instead of binding people down by rules, laws, norms and concepts like 'acting-our-age' and maturity, shouldn't society work towards the fulfillment of each human's innermost passion? We only live once, and noone on Earth has the right to tell us how to live.
And then there was this close pal who noted I was too immature to be in a relationship. Maturity doesn't count there. Relationship is just a fancy word we give to the deeper concept of copulation or sex. Marriage, Dating, Flirting, these are but accesories invented by humans as a grand prequel to the basic concept of existence: reproduction. You reproduce for pleasure, for the survival of your species. And you marry for not dying a loner. If love and marriage are such pure concepts, if heart is the lone ruler, then why do looks matter? Why do girls still buy creams to be fair, to look better like their model counterparts? People can, and will give lame reasons like understanding, trust and all that.
To understand a girl, you need to talk to her. To talk to an unknown girl, you need to be interested. To be interested in her, she needs to stand out in the crowd, she needs some striking aspect that attracts you to her. And after all this routine of understanding and 'love', you fulfill the basic ending. The three letter word.
Maybe the way I put it may seem crude to all the sensitive humans, but its the truth. I don't give a damn even if I'm not. Cuz we all live the life we believe in.
Maturity is a rusty concept. I'm fcuked up cuz I was born fcuked up, a whole generation of men have been fcuked up before me, and my whole race is one fcuked up race. I wish the world would stop telling me how to live.
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'relationship'is indeed a fancy word nowadays.no 2nd thgts.and dude u dont need to mince words:).I was the one who made tat gentle remark abt u bein immature and i still stick by my statement. love and marriage are indeed pure concepts. yeah dude look does matter and i agree entirely tat u wld want to know abt a person only if the person looks attractive. but then u seem to have totally understood me wrong.wen i said immature i said that cos in ur case only looks mattered and u did nt bother to understand that person or did not take enough time to do so.i guess i had made this point very clear in my post dude.check out once more.
and regardin sex the way i perceive it is diff.i feel its just another form of expression of love. so in a way after understanding loving u need to express it and sex is just one such way.
i have used ur words only but just in a diff order.
and maturity in general term i feel its the way a person reacts to a situation such that he in no way looses his originality but at the same time his actions do not affect the fellow beings.
sometimes there is a need for us to curb ourself so as not to disturb fellow beings.this might be good at sometimes but its always better to be ourselves but with valid reasons.
courteous, polite, warm, thoughtful, sensitive, resourceful, are not the virtues to decide maturity.its how well u implement the virtues at the right place.
act according to situation act wit love compassion n nt hatred and act in a true manner.
"Maturity is a psychological term used to indicate that a person responds to the circumstances or environment in an appropriate manner"
i wish to highlight the word appropriate manner. u have mis interpreted it and knowingly r unknowingly i guess im responsible for it by calling u immature. but i cant help but calling u again immature for nt getting wt i actually meant.
things apart im nt by any stretch of imagination claiming to be mature n everyone of us r immature in one thing or the other and that is the beautiful aspect of life that keeps us going.
yove... saavadikadha ya. :D
indeed u wer one among the two buggers who kindled the fire in me...
thing is, why should i learn how to respond to a given situation? shouldn't it be instinctive? why shud some other bugger tel me how i hav to do stuff?
there is no right or wrong. there is no morality. so there is no right way or wrong way to behave at a given situation. wats right to you maybe wrong to a bunch of others. wats universally right maybe wrong acc to me.
who then is to judge maturity?
v r all jus a bunch of apes living in an isolated planet. a bunch of thinking apes, or so they say, with the Sixth Sense. thats crap... the sixth sense has led us nowhere but to our own destruction.
We are animals, amen.
dai nayakan dialogue copy adikaraya?ya im firm believer tat wt is right to me need nt be right to someone else.but wt im tryin to say is the fact tat my action is no way hindering the existance of a fellow being.
y shld u nt learn how to learn?
u be instinctive bt ur argument is so lame.
lets have a hypothetical situation:
(sorry for such a wild n explicit situation)
i go rape or kill ur gal n tel i reacted instinctively.is the law or u gonna leave me scot free. the prob is we always v c with such a narrow mind that we dont bother about the other end.
true we r selfish but we cant be selfish enough to spoil other people's life. when there is option of reacting in a particular way such that its nt affecting anyone y cant we do it?
instead of tellin i wil react in my way n i care a damm if its affecting someone.y cant we hv this small consideration for a fellow human being.this is according to me morality.living in peaceful co-existance. yea even im wondering who is the judge for morality?deep down for me its the conscience bt its for me and tis in entirely my view.
no wonder we r in a world where there had been 2 great wars and many happening here n there and many impending.
and for ur other nihilistic views i care a damm.nihilism sucks.
satyameva jayate!!! i try to toe the line of dharma !!!
"Dei yaaruda avan veri naai kadicha madhiri pesaraan"-Goundamani
I personally applaud Nihilism, because even though it may seem highly impractical and like the work of a raving maniac, it is true in its deepest sense. And that is y people tend to detest it.
The human ego is so blown up that nobody likes to think of themselves as worthless and entities in an extremely vast universe. But thats my view, and if you think, Nihilism sucks, i giv u credit for sticking to ur beliefs on dharma.
U can twist the ideals of Dharma to suit you, you can twist the rules of democracy to suit you, but Nihilism is whole. Its principles cannot be twisted in any way.
ideals like dharma and democracy look good on paper, but everything fails miserably in real life. none of us here hav had a say in even electing our government, let alone issues of morality. it is the same all over the world. we write laws, we impose rules, but anarchy is what prevails in a human society.
dude oru mairum purila free.ur desperately getting defensive. ye nihilism points out the true color of life bt it doesn nt solve any purpose.even i can go on spotting problems.its no big deal. yea btw nihilsm is nt principle or just pointing out problems is certainly nt. its our vote that elects the gov.the majority always wins.its just that u voted the loosing side.
there is no need to think ourselves r worthless bt TRY not to think others r worthless. as simple as that
the fact that you don't understand what i'm talking about has no relevance absolutely to ur claim that m getting defensive.
nihilism is not about spotting problems. that is the work of a whining hypocrite. Nihilism merely points out that life is meaningless, because you exist to survive, nothing more nothing less. i was merely saying that humans change colors faster than u can fart.
humans change the laws according to their benefit. every humans major goal is survival, and what you do to achieve that doesn't matter.
wt's the use of pointing out life is meaningless?is any solution offered to make it meaningful? dont we know that?its lik vadivel askin "yaar pesarathu" and parthiban replyin "dai naye ne pesarathu unakku therillaya atha phone panni vera kepaya?"
yea we do changer colors?so its like we know its wrong bt we stil do it? so its better late than never to correct ourselves.
yea we all want to survive in this cut throat world and as u say how we go abt is trivial but my bone of contention is we must make sure we achieve our goal in a way no one is affected. as i told earlier peaceful co-existance. then there wld be less wars n the money spent on millitary can be used for development and the world wil be a much better to live in.n life will have a meaning to it.
waatha....xamku padingada..... aiyoggiya dogs....
@ Dipak
free... poda argue panni bore adikudhu, freeya vidu.
@Jagan
dhoda... topper dhaane nee. yen pesamaata.
wotha baadu why this fuckin wikki defines maturity blah blah blah.by the way ill tell you the concept behind it kai adichu kanjhi vanthal ur mature tats all man.
philosophy??? *dish* naaye..
HEY!all these verbal dump just reminded me of a quote by bernieman!(bernard shaw ya)"A man of great common sense and good taste - meaning thereby a man without originality or moral courage." since common sense is is another element that defines maturity, i think this quote says it all! don't you fret bro! all this slush and mush about being mature, yech! makes me wanna barf
Old Bernie rocks. :D
cheers.. :)
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